This is so true.

To me, closure means some element of "finished" so I know whatever it is, is over. But I think you are right... it's about integrating the pain and experience, not assuming it will go away someday.

And I also agree with you... the wounds shape us, and become part of us. They inform our choices, and make beautiful moments all the sweeter... and caution us with the voice of experience.

You have a lot of wisdom :)