I Am Fat Woman, Hear Me Roar

[cinema_babe]

So many people spend so much time putting shit off until they lose weight. Fat people can jump out of planes, go dancing, and wear bathing suits (hell, they even make bikinis in large sizes!). I'm a big proponent of Healthy @ Any Size. Do what you need to get and stay healthy but in the meantime don't limit yourself because you don't fit a societal construct or particular BMI.

I don't care about waiting until then because not a single day is promised us; there might not be a then, why wait to sip the fine scotch?

Every time I hear a woman talk about not going to the beach or pool because she's ashamed to where a bathing suit, it breaks my heart. When I encounter women who are desperate for outside approval from others, my heart breaks. We are worth far more than the sacks of meat that carry our brains and heart around.

The dirty little secret of the dieting industry is that losing weight won't solve your life problems. If you are shy you will still be shy at a size 6. Losing weight won't teach you how to flirt or be more assertive, or make you happier. You will be the same person only thinner.

It's a good goal if that is what you want but it shouldn't put your life in a holding pattern.

You don't put the weight you don't want on in a week. You are not going to take it off in a week. You may never get all of it off depending on the circumstances. That is not an excuse to put your life on hold. The people who matter and truly love you will love you for who you are physically, mentally, and in every other way.

Anyone else can go fuck themselves.

Put on that bathing suit, dance that Tango, dump that loser, flirt, play hopscotch, practice your downward dog, go to the gym, go to the spa. Buy that silky purple dress! Be that person you are waiting to be until you the lose weight.


Own. It.

Love yourself enough to have a the best life you can have life. And if you don't love yourself?

Pretend to love yourself until you do.

Comments

[mama-hogswatch.livejournal.com]

The dirty little secret of the dieting industry is that losing weight won't solve your life problems. If you are shy you will still be shy at a size 6. Losing weight won't teach you how to flirt or be more assertive, or make you happier. You will be the same person only thinner.

Amen.

[spiralsongkat.livejournal.com]

Oh, A-fucking-men. Thank you so much for this.

[ashbet]

This, absolutely :D

(If I waited until I got thin or got healthy to live my life, I'd have missed out on numberless wonderful experiences -- there was no point in putting my life on hold until my body changed . . . especially since my ability to have any control over my weight is largely determined by which meds I'm taking and whether I'm healthy enough to be active. For me, HAES means accepting that my body has disabling limitations, but I still do my best to eat well, be active when my illness allows, and lead as healthy and happy a life as possible. The number on the scale is the *least* important factor in these equations!)

<3!

[barking-iguana.livejournal.com]

Men too, even if the social pressure isn't as extreme.

[spiralsongkat.livejournal.com]

Agreed. Definitely.