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The Ugly Green Monster
Jan. 14th, 2006 01:32 amA couple of months ago I was reading the message board on a web site a frequent and someone posted that they were getting a divorce. They talked about how the kids were the top priority for them and their spouse. I felt kind of bad for them because I know first hand that a divorce can be a tough thing.
About a week ago, this person posted that they had met someone. That was the phrase 'met someone' but we all know what that really means. This person has met the kids, the kids love new person, ex-spouse likes new person, new person's kids like the poster's kids. It's one fecking love fest.
Ooops, is it showing again? My jealousy I mean.
My first reaction was that for someone who droned on and on about doing what was right for the kids, the poster didn't wait long to jump into a new relationship. God knows I understand the sex part but the coupledom thing astounded me a bit. I had to sit with it for a couple of days before I figured out why. I was jealous of this person's (seeming) ability to segue right into another relationship while the corpse of their marriage was still pretty fresh.
I've heard this said by other people: I wish to God I was a much simpler person. I've been separated since the start of the Summer and M is onto his second (or possibly third) romance. He'd told me that he hoped I would get a boyfriend so I would move out sooner.
That's a reason to get a boyfriend??!! I thought it was about companionship and sharing and trusting? I don't understand how *anyone* can walk out of a major relationship or marriage and within a month be 'spending time' with someone else.
No. What I really mean is why can't *I* do it. I wish Iwasn't afraid of repeating my failures didn't care about repeating my mistakes. I wish I could be more like other people.
About a week ago, this person posted that they had met someone. That was the phrase 'met someone' but we all know what that really means. This person has met the kids, the kids love new person, ex-spouse likes new person, new person's kids like the poster's kids. It's one fecking love fest.
Ooops, is it showing again? My jealousy I mean.
My first reaction was that for someone who droned on and on about doing what was right for the kids, the poster didn't wait long to jump into a new relationship. God knows I understand the sex part but the coupledom thing astounded me a bit. I had to sit with it for a couple of days before I figured out why. I was jealous of this person's (seeming) ability to segue right into another relationship while the corpse of their marriage was still pretty fresh.
I've heard this said by other people: I wish to God I was a much simpler person. I've been separated since the start of the Summer and M is onto his second (or possibly third) romance. He'd told me that he hoped I would get a boyfriend so I would move out sooner.
That's a reason to get a boyfriend??!! I thought it was about companionship and sharing and trusting? I don't understand how *anyone* can walk out of a major relationship or marriage and within a month be 'spending time' with someone else.
No. What I really mean is why can't *I* do it. I wish I
